Before I get into this -- I know I've been going a bit video happy in the past couple of weeks. Mostly because now, I can. When I still had my old, slow, overloaded computer, I couldn't add Mr. D's video clips. If I tried to, they wouldn't play properly and they wouldn't upload elsewhere. But now, everything is screaming fast and I can load them and share them with ease.
Since I've been doing so, I've noticed something interesting: While my blog views have increased dramatically, my comments have decreased. I wonder why that is. (I wish the @#$%ing spam would decrease! Still have that in abundance.)
Anyway, in this video odyssey, I've also noticed this: There is something about tears, about a spankee crying, that resonates like nothing else. I think I've always known this, but never had it spelled out so clearly as I did this week.
A couple of days ago, I posted two clips on FetLife and Spanking Tube. The first one was the one I also posted here: the silly, funny one with lots of laughing and banter, where Mr. D is quizzing me. The second was much more serious: it was the very end of that same scene, where he was caning me and I was openly weeping. It was short, just under three minutes, and had the lovely dichotomy of Mr. D being tender and kind verbally while physically inflicting pain.
Personally, while I like both, I prefer the funny one. I like scenes with sass and lively exchange and some laughs (as long as the spanking is still authentic). So I was amazed at the reaction to the one with tears.
On FetLife, you can can comment on a video or a photo, and you can also "love" it (similar to the Like function on Facebook). My humorous video, so far, has gotten 11 comments and 20 loves. And the crying one? It has 28 comments and 74 loves.
On Spanking Tube, it's a little more balanced: the funny one is "favorited" 20 times; the crying one, 27. But some of the comments have been amazing, particularly for a site that is known for meanness. A couple of people have said this is one of the best clips they've ever seen.
So why is this? While it's poignant, I don't think it's exceptional as scenes go; it's short, it's one angle, etc. It must be the tears. Is it tears in general, or is it my tears, because I'm known for being such a smartass?
I know some folks fetishize tears -- it's called dacryphilia. I'd say that's fairly common in the spanking scene. But what's the ratio? How many people who like scenes with crying are being emotionally moved vs. being turned on?
I have mixed feelings about watching scenes with tears. As far as I am concerned, there are good tears and bad tears. I've watched scenes where the top is yelling and acting like a brute and the bottom is sobbing, and I have turned them off in the middle. But if the bottom's tears appear to be of catharsis rather than a pained and frightened reaction to harsh treatment, then I melt. In some ways, a scene with crying is more about the top than the bottom, for me.
I'll let you guys be the judge. Here's the clip with tears. If you don't like that sort of thing, please don't watch. But for those who do, I'm curious -- what is it about tears? Do share.
Since I've been doing so, I've noticed something interesting: While my blog views have increased dramatically, my comments have decreased. I wonder why that is. (I wish the @#$%ing spam would decrease! Still have that in abundance.)
Anyway, in this video odyssey, I've also noticed this: There is something about tears, about a spankee crying, that resonates like nothing else. I think I've always known this, but never had it spelled out so clearly as I did this week.
A couple of days ago, I posted two clips on FetLife and Spanking Tube. The first one was the one I also posted here: the silly, funny one with lots of laughing and banter, where Mr. D is quizzing me. The second was much more serious: it was the very end of that same scene, where he was caning me and I was openly weeping. It was short, just under three minutes, and had the lovely dichotomy of Mr. D being tender and kind verbally while physically inflicting pain.
Personally, while I like both, I prefer the funny one. I like scenes with sass and lively exchange and some laughs (as long as the spanking is still authentic). So I was amazed at the reaction to the one with tears.
On FetLife, you can can comment on a video or a photo, and you can also "love" it (similar to the Like function on Facebook). My humorous video, so far, has gotten 11 comments and 20 loves. And the crying one? It has 28 comments and 74 loves.
On Spanking Tube, it's a little more balanced: the funny one is "favorited" 20 times; the crying one, 27. But some of the comments have been amazing, particularly for a site that is known for meanness. A couple of people have said this is one of the best clips they've ever seen.
So why is this? While it's poignant, I don't think it's exceptional as scenes go; it's short, it's one angle, etc. It must be the tears. Is it tears in general, or is it my tears, because I'm known for being such a smartass?
I know some folks fetishize tears -- it's called dacryphilia. I'd say that's fairly common in the spanking scene. But what's the ratio? How many people who like scenes with crying are being emotionally moved vs. being turned on?
I have mixed feelings about watching scenes with tears. As far as I am concerned, there are good tears and bad tears. I've watched scenes where the top is yelling and acting like a brute and the bottom is sobbing, and I have turned them off in the middle. But if the bottom's tears appear to be of catharsis rather than a pained and frightened reaction to harsh treatment, then I melt. In some ways, a scene with crying is more about the top than the bottom, for me.
I'll let you guys be the judge. Here's the clip with tears. If you don't like that sort of thing, please don't watch. But for those who do, I'm curious -- what is it about tears? Do share.